“I want to get my ex back, but everything I do seems to push him away!” “How can I get my ex boyfriend back when everything I do seems to take us farther apart?”
I get questions like this every day from women who want to repair their relationships with their ex-boyfriends–but who seem to push their exes away at every opportunity. It’s hard to find this delicate balance–especially since no one ever taught you how!
What are these women doing wrong–and what should they be doing right? I’m going to tell you.
The #1 Mistake Most Women Make–and How to Avoid It
The biggest mistake you’re probably making with your ex is just that you’re trying too hard. Don’t feel bad. It’s only natural for you to want to call, text, email, or just plain talk to your ex boyfriend and try and work things out.
Unfortunately, it’s also natural for your ex to turn away when he feels pressured! Even if you’re not pressuring him AT ALL, he probably feels pressured any time you talk to him after a breakup. Sorry, ladies–it’s just the way we are!
Your ex boyfriend WILL NOT get back with you if he feels pressured or smothered. He MIGHT get back with you if he starts to miss you and realize how good you really are.
And that is exactly what you should do next: Make your ex boyfriend miss you.
There is a way.
How to Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You
Let me give you a hint: your ex boyfriend can’t miss you if he hears from you every day!
“I want to get my ex back, but he won’t talk about getting back together when I call him.” That’s why you need to quit calling him and let him learn to miss you for a little bit.
Take a little time to yourself. If you just got out of a relationship, you probably need to do this anyway. Spend some time healing and get a little “you time”. Pamper yourself. Call up friends or family or anyone who makes you feel good about yourself when you talk to them.
I know this is easier said than done. But take it from a man who’s been on the other side of a breakup: you’ll look MUCH more attractive if you can give your boyfriend even a few days to miss you. This just requires a little bit of discipline on your part.
If you can pull this off, you won’t just make your ex boyfriend miss you. You’ll also once again become mysterious to him. We love that stuff!
So When do I Get My Ex Boyfriend Back?
Remember that this strategy is to work WITH human nature instead of AGAINST it. Human nature isn’t always what we want it to be. It’s pretty frustrating sometimes (to put it mildly). And it can drive you and your ex batty as you try and get things going after a break up.
But if you’re serious when you say “I want to get my ex boyfriend back,” you’ve just got to use a little patience and let him miss you for a short while.
There there are some rough guidelines on how long or short this period should be. It shouldn’t take long–but you should give it at least a week or two!
This is your preparation for the first step you need to take to get your ex boyfriend back. Get this preparation right, and you stand a much better chance of repairing any broken relationship.